Have you ever asked yourself, what your better or future self will look like?
Have you ever paused to consider your true purpose and the path to your “next” self? Or have we all been influenced by the effects of social media and celebrities, leading us to believe that our superior selves must wear a Hollywood smile and embrace Beckham’s lifestyle? This lack of clarity often leads us to pursue someone else’s notion of success, only to realize it falls short of genuine fulfillment. Even after acquiring that large house, faster car, or a fancy degree, you might still experience an emptiness that follows big achievements, with no true realization of happiness.
In recent interactions with various clients and friends, I’ve noticed a common theme: many struggle to answer straightforward questions—What is your primary life goal, and what achievement would bring you the utmost fulfillment? These questions have prompted extended reflection, deep conversation, and at times, triggered strong emotions and tears.
In a famous Harvard study, lasting for more than 85 years and involving over 750 participants from across the globe, the central inquiry was focused on the source of true happiness in life. This extensive, long study represents and includes participants with various unique characteristics, such as a president, ambitious professionals, farmers, and even individuals behind bars. Surprisingly, the key finding of the study was that the happiest participants were not always those with successful careers, power, or wealth; it was those who nurtured the most fulfilling relationships.
During the turbulent times of COVID-19, my biggest realization was that the most painful and long-lasting impact of this pandemic was to live without our networks. I remain uncertain whether the FaceTime and Zoom calls improved or worsened that situation, but one thing became very evident: our inability to connect with the people we hold dear, those we love to meet and converse with, marked a significant change that we are still suffering from until now.
So, as you enjoy your coffee today, pause for a moment to reflect on your true self and envision the improved version that you would love to be. Do you believe that there is a better version? Can’t we just realize what we already have and think positively about how to utilize it better, rather than engaging in a comparison that might bring us nothing but stress and frustration?
I will be glad to participate in public discussions or engage in one-on-one conversations. Here’s to a week brimming with meaningful relationships and profound fulfillment.